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[zanzjan]

In other news, I've just about perked up out of my post-parent-visit deep funk, only to be heading into the "Waaah, I'm not going to Worldcon and everyone else is!" blues.

Must distract myself by writing.

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[dajt.livejournal.com]

If it helps, I'm not going to worldcon either. Or Pennsic. I get to stay home with the children instead.

[zanzjan.livejournal.com]

Karen's heading out by herself? Good for her! Sorry you're left behind, though.

I didn't think you guys normally did Pennsic. I've never been, and I think I've outgrown the age when I thought it would be really fun. )-:

[dajt.livejournal.com]

She's not going alone, but the whole logistics are too complicated to describe here. After Worldcon, Dina and Karen are meeting us (Me, Ian, various kids) in Maine, which is going to be its own adventure.

I've never been to Pennsic, but this year I was told by a couple of people that I really should go. Too bad I have this family and this job. . . :-) I don't think I've outgrown the "it would be fun" age, but I've definitely outgrown the "it would be easy to schedule" age.

[zanzjan.livejournal.com]

That sounds complicated. Good luck to y'all with the logistics!

I suppose a good part of my reluctance to do these sorts of things anymore stems less from age, since we all know how mature I'm not, but from just how difficult it is for me even to get to the grocery store right now.

[dajt.livejournal.com]

With Dina involved, luck is always appreciated.

I keep having to remind myself that doing things with an 8yo and a 10yo is vastly different from doing them with a 6yo and an 8yo. They are more self-everything now, for good and bad. . .

You'll have a social life again. It might take a few years, but it'll happen. With luck it won't even take a decade. :-)

[zanzjan.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it's pretty sad that going off to help llcoolvad move on Saturday was the highlight of my entire summer socially. I was so energized just by the chance to be out with people w/o children clinging to me that I would've happily stayed there and helped her for hours and hours longer.

Sorry to hear about the Westford Butterfly place, btw. )-: I hope the owner does manage to rebuild.

[dajt.livejournal.com]

The summer's not over yet. There's still chances to get a bit of socializing in. You could even make it to a summer party or two. With a bit of planning we could even manage to completely miss each other, and thus avoid having to be in different rooms. :-)

I hadn't heard about the butterfly place. Yikes! I'm really glad nobody was hurt. And yeah, rebuilding would be nice, but the articles I read didn't sound too hopeful.

[zanzjan.livejournal.com]

With a bit of planning we could even manage to completely miss each other, and thus avoid having to be in different rooms.

I miss you an awful lot, you know. I just don't know how to reconcile what I thought our friendship was -- what I needed it to be -- with how it ended.

But still, you're like family I avoid. Does that help? No, probably not. )-:

[dajt.livejournal.com]

I miss you too. And you kicking me out of your life led to some of the best and worst things that've happened in my life, and changed things (and me) in ways that I'll never get to tell you about.

Given how badly the family you don't avoid treats you, that bit says really horrible things about me, doesn't it?

And the really sad thing is, even if we could be friends again, I don't think I'd have the time. Overcommitment seems to be a chronic condition in my life these days.

[zanzjan.livejournal.com]

Given how badly the family you don't avoid treats you, that bit says really horrible things about me, doesn't it?

There's a difference between the family you're stuck with and the ones you've chosen, even if sometimes the fallings-out seem much the same.

It's some comfort that at least some good has come from this for you. I'm not sure I can say the same, except that I'm getting better at surviving in a vacuum. Probably it was always meant to be that way.

[dajt.livejournal.com]

For me, at least, family I've chosen can hurt me much more than family I'm stuck with. When Kelly got all sanctimonious at me, it washed right over me with a silent "Ha! You should talk!". When went all negative about my lifestyle, *that* hurt..

One thing I learned from is that you're only in a vacuum to the extent that you choose to be. (She puts herself in a vacuum far more than you. I think that may be part of why she and isn't part of our lives any more.) Kids make the logistics hard (as I well know), but there are plenty of people who'll meet you midway if you let them.

I'll be somewhat less busy than other days Thursday night if you want to talk. Call my cell phone if I'm not online.

[dajt.livejournal.com]

Heh. All the {redacted} bits vanished from my previous comment, making it hard to read. Oops.